Sunday, March 27, 2022

547. My Bawdy, Genteel Party: Who Can Come and Who Can't


                        MY  PARTY

"Nobody kills a party like a genius,"said the great party-giver Elsa Maxwell, and she should know.  So no geniuses, at least if self-proclaimed.

So who can come?  I'll confine myself to writers, since we know, or think we know, them best.  

Chaucer, for one.  He had wide experience, and a great sense of humor, earthy and a bit naughty.

Who else?  The Greek playwright Aristophanes.  He imagined an airy republic of the birds up in Cloud Cuckoo Land, would surely keep us in stitches. 

Certainly our own Ben Franklin, who was witty and wise, and especially with the ladies, charming.  He charmed the French court of Louis XVI, helped us get our independence.

Speaking of ladies, how about some?  Madame de Sévigné, who wrote charming letters with a light touch.  And Jane Austen, of course.  

Any more Americans?  Surely Mark Twain, with tales of his travels.  And on a more serious note, Henry James, observant and worldly-wise, even if he uses ten words where three will do.

Who can't come?  Milton: too sure of himself and everything.  La Rochefoucauld: his Maxims, reducing everything to self-love, are too jaded, too sour.  Dr. Johnson: a dyed-in-the-wool Tory, unflinchingly conservative.  And Romantic poets generally: too weepy, too self-involved.

Shakespeare?  Yes, though we don't really know him; we know his works.  And Moliere, who knew lot about human nature.

That's enough, you get the idea.  And you, my readers, are invited, too.  A great time will be had by all.



Sunday, March 20, 2022

546. We Lived Richly

The closing paragraph of the online memoir I will soon send 

to the Gay History Archive on 13th Street:   


So ends my story.  On Thursday, March 17, 2022, I donated Bob’s diaries, correspondence, and photo albums to the Gay Center on West 13th Street, for inclusion in their gay history archive.  None of it can be made public until ten years after my death.  This memoir will also go there.  This is a substantial collection that could someday be used in many ways.  In it there is much pain, joy, frustration, and realization.  We lived richly.  


Yes, we lived richly.

Sunday, March 13, 2022

545. Surviving Hospital Food and the Squawking Bitch

 


545.  Surviving Hospital Food and the Squawking Bitch

During my recent hospital and rehab center stay (see post 544),

I had many misadventures.  Among them:

  • Going to the hospital in the worst snowstorm in years, arriving in my new room at 3 a.m. 
  • Dealing with  the Squawking Bitch, a sadistic nurse's aide who -- unlike most of  the rehab staff -- made my life at times miserable.
  • Trying for four days to connect with an elusive  nurse practitioner, then giving it up, only to have her finally materialize and prove most helpful.
  • Dining with other inmates who, when one of them screamed for help, continued their quiet conversation (his screams were a daily occurrence).
  • Getting little sleep because of lights coming on at 3 a,m., clattering bedpans dropped in the hall, and nurses determined to get your vital signs at odd hours.
  • Funny moments alternating with horrors that I cannot bring myself to describe.

In spite of the above, I highly recommend both Lenox Hill Hospital and Village Care, the rehab center on Houston Street where I was treated.  They helped me a lot.