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When Gays Savage Gays:
The Controversy That Splits
the Gay World Down the Middle
Years ago, from 2000 until
his release in 2014, I was the pen pal of a gay inmate in North Carolina. In 2008 and 2009 Joe had a series of stories
on gay prison life published online by Q-Notes
(now known as QNotes), the
leading LGBTQ online and print publication in North Carolina. No sooner had the first story appeared, when
a flood of online protests began that only increased as the stories continued
to be published. What was the
problem? It wasn’t the stories
themselves, but a note at the end of each story stating that Joe had been sentenced to 20
years in prison for “indecent liberties with a child and crime against nature.”
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Joe's home at the time. One of them, at least.
They kept moving him around.
State Archives of North Carolina |
One of the first protests was a lengthy one by a former law
enforcement officer who said he was currently employed as an investigator by a Fortune 500
company in Charlotte, NC. I will quote him
here in part, abridged.
Giving
this writer a voice while he is still incarcerated gives the appearance that Q-Notes is endorsing a pedophile…. Remorse is
glaringly lacking in the writings…. As a gay man I take great offense that he
identifies himself as a gay man. He is
more than likely a pedophile who is attempting to gain sympathy from our
community by claiming that he is gay…. He has 20 disciplinary infractions while
in prison including forgery, violating North Carolina law, misuse of phone and
mail, verbal threats, fighting, disobeying orders and being found in
unauthorized locations…. In conclusion, I hope that Q-Notes will cease all
publication of his writings.
Q-Notes responded
quickly to this early protest. In the
issue of January 10, 2009, the editor urged readers to look beyond the
messenger to the message. Regardless of
the writer’s crimes, the editor insisted, his stories reflect the overall
experience of LGBT individuals in U.S. prisons, who suffer discrimination,
harassment, and physical and mental abuse from fellow prisoners and guards
alike. Mr. Urbaniak lets the gay
community have a small glance into a world most of us will never
experience. Sitting safely on the
outside, he concluded, we can find truths and realities we’ve never thought of
before. So spoke the editor. And Q-Notes let the stories continue for their limited run.
This did not stop the protests, quite the contrary. As for instance:
· The published material is focused on the sexual
experiences of a conficted [sic] molester within the prison system.
· As someone who has the pain and lingering emotional
effects of sexual abuse, I find it appalling and repulsive that Q-Notes would
publish a column from a man who committed such an offense.
· Being a Criminal Justice student … I was also
disappointed that Q-Notes decided to publish a column from a convicted child
molester.
· Q-Notes should not lend a voice to a pedophile,
whether in jail or not.
· This is disgusting…. We know right from wrong…. In all
honesty we shouldn’t really care what goes on inside prison…. I hope this
column stops.
So spoke the critics.
But others disagreed:
· I am 76 years old and all my life until these last
fifteen years I have been told to be remorseful for being gay. And for most of that time I have done penance. But no more.
I may not choose to read the prisoner’s writings, but, hey, a multitude
of Middle Class squares don’t approve of my attempts at writing, either. If there is a readership for him, there
should be a place for his writings, no matter what a Fortune 500 company
employee thinks.
· Cry me a river, people, damn! I think Q-Note’s decision to publish this
column is valid and even though the offense is horrible and inexcusable, it is
still a view into an otherwise unknown venue by most of us. In the end, if you do not want to read it,
THEN DON’T!
· Cry me a river, too…. Think your responses thru before
inserting foot to mouth I’ve looked over
the charges against this inmate. I’ve
come to the conclusion it is a young man and his lover, not an act of violence
committed here. The court system
unfairly sentenced this man to a long jail term, when a murderer gets a shorter
sentence for what I feel is a far more reprehensible crime. [A surprisingly perceptive comment, perhaps
made with knowledge of my comment below.]
· I find it reprehensible that members of the LGBT community
pass judgment on one of our own, facing a system that is built on denying him
his rights as a gay man…. By reading
about his injustice and the life of a gay man in NC’s prison system (and from
experience as a former correction officer, I can tell you it’s accurate) – we
should be outraged. We can take a stand
AGAINST discrimination, without taking a stand FOR pedophilia.
So there it is: child molestation, and because of it, the gay world split right down the middle. The responses to Joe’s stories come from the angry, the
indignant, and the judgmental, but also from the perceptive, the wounded, and
the compassionate. All spoke from the
heart, though some with more knowledge than others. And through no fault of their own, they none
of them knew the true facts of Joe’s story.
To these comments I will add my own, published in Q-Notes in the issue of January 10,
2009.
Though a
resident of New York City, I have followed the publication of Joe’s articles,
and the controversy they have raised, with great interest. I have been a pen pal of Joe’s since 2000; we
have exchanged close to four hundred letters and have often discussed his case
and related issues. I have obtained his
complete court records and have helped him to write his unpublished memoir,
telling in detail how he came to be arrested and imprisoned. I understand the concern of those readers who
question the appropriateness of publishing his articles on gay prison life, but
I feel that they might change their minds if they knew Joe’s full story. The relationship which led to his arrest was
a consensual one. The presumed victim, a
teenager, has since testified in court, and stated separately in a signed
affidavit, that Joe did not harm him in any way, nor in his opinion would Joe
willingly harm anyone; that he himself bears some responsibility for the
relationship; and that he favors Joe’s receiving parole. Even if the circumstances were otherwise, I
think that Q-Notes would be justified in printing Joe’s articles, and I applaud
their having done so to date. I take the
issue of child molestation seriously, since three of my friends were molested
as children and as a result bear emotional scars to this day. But Joe’s relationship was a very different
matter and should not be confused with cases like those. And his honest reporting of gay life in
prison merits the attention of the whole gay community. I hope the articles will continue.
Joe too answered the protests. In a message published in Q-Notes on
February 7, 2009, he thanked the editor for his supportive editorial, and even
thanked the former correction officer who protested the publication of his
stories so vehemently. But if he showed
no remorse in those stories, he explained, it
was because the stories had nothing to do with his crime. He then insisted that he had a great deal of
empathy for the victim and his family, which is why he voluntarily entered a
program for admitted sex offenders and completed it. He hopes that the readers and the LGBT and
straight communities will see him for the person he has become, rather than the
person he was when he committed his offense.
A reasonable and fair-minded response. But Joe could not express himself fully,
being still incarcerated and hoping for parole.
A little later he wrote a final statement, but comments had been closed
by then, so to my knowledge it was never published. As for the infractions attributed to him in prison -- forgery, fighting, and so on -- I know for a fact that they were trivial, often the concoction of an angry guard. He never picked fights, often walked away from a threatening inmate and was assaulted from behind.
It is important to remember the setting and time of this
controversy: North Carolina, 2008-2009. Though times are changing, North Carolina was, and still is, Bible Belt country. Joe had told me that there are two North
Carolinas. There is a liberal North
Carolina that includes the state capital, Raleigh, the Triangle of three major
universities, and Charlotte. But there
is also a very conservative North Carolina, comprising all the rest of the
state, including Wilmington, the scene of his arrest and sentencing. The North Carolina gay community felt
embattled, and like gay communities anywhere, it was eager to keep its cause
separate from anything that smacked of child molestation. Only with that in mind can we understand the
reaction to the publication of Joe’s stories.
I discussed man/boy love in post #43, January 20, 2013, which was then republished on June 28, 2016, as
#239: “Man/Boy Love: The Great Taboo.”
For many months it was the most popular post on this blog. It gives my point of view on a subject that remains
controversial today. My main point: listen
to the boys. Don’t tell them they were
victims; ask them about the relationship, find out if it was consensual. If clearly consensual, I say, leave it
alone. The criminal justice system can
then do more harm than good, as was the case in Joe’s story – a story that I
hope he will make public. The memoir that I
helped him write reads like a novel, and its end, written while he was still incarcerated, is heartbreaking. It’s not slated for publication now, but with
Joe’s permission I will publish several of his stories about prison life here. Some of them are grim, some are funny; all deserve to be read.
Coming soon: Crime of the Century: Theft of the Golden Throne.
© 2019 Clifford Browder
